By absent-minded on
Monday, February 7, 2005
Friday, June 29, 2001
If you were not lonely, because of sharing your loneliness, you would have nothing to share! Two lonely people don’t make a community, most marriages can teach us that. I believe that, at least in the case of a writer, what keeps him company is the vision of truth which has in his thought and creative activity. He may not believe in God explicitly, but a vision of truth, to the degree that it is real, has something of the quality of faith – just as believing in God only in words, is to have an ideology, not a real God, which is being not lonely but devastated.
There are degrees and kinds (many ways) of being and non being lonely, and loneliness is not something bad in all cases. It can come from not knowing the truth, but also from leaving the environment where most people live, in a loneliness that year by year is transformed into a communion with reality. Rilke’s Letter to a young poet can help you think on this. However, in my opinion, to be free one needs a personal relationship. This is not ‘having friends’ but having the gift of recognising a friend even in a stranger’s face, which means having a clean heart and a giving disposition, having gone out of yourself and your self-centered desires, a move which can not be perfect until you know Who is the one friend that you see in all your stranger-friends’ faces.
This is not about being religious, but knowing God in truth and reality, a God that has a name, a face and hands to touch you, a present and living God, whom you can be with even in your dreams; knowing in truth that He knows you, He thinks of you all the time, He loves you infinitely more than you love and care for yourself.
Being lonely in the sense of being somehow sick, is the result of living for anything else than truth. If you knew that a person loves you, wouldn’t you like to see him? How can one not want to see the person to whom one owes his very existence? And yet, he can live that way, he can live in all the terrors, preferring them instead of reality.